For Ankita of “Indian Matchmaking,” Honesty is the Best Policy

The Delhi-based entrepreneur says if you’re not going to be honest to yourself, you’ll end up in a soup.

Delhi entrepreneur Ankita Bansal talks with matchmaker Sima Taparia. (Netflix)

The Juggernaut


August 21, 2020


10 min

Ankita Bansal won hearts on Netflix’s reality series Indian Matchmaking for her perspective on relationships: honesty is the best policy.

In the show, Bansal, who runs a clothing business, employs the services of Sima Taparia, “Mumbai’s top matchmaker,” to find a partner. The Juggernaut spoke with Bansal about the matchmaking experience, companionship, and her entrepreneurial journey.

The following conversation has been edited for length and clarity. Watch the full Q&A on IGTV.

You were portrayed as the young, modern millennial in Delhi. Did you expect that you would come off that way, especially as a foil to some of the other participants from India? 

It was actually a reality documentary, a docu-reality. So whatever was on-screen, I would not use the word portrayal because that would mean that I was trying to bring out a different side to me, which might not exist in real life. I'm very content and I wasn’t surprised because that's who I am. I was apprehensive of how I might be accepted or how my views might be taken in — because coming from a society like India, sometimes you feel a little intimidated because you have such strong opinions, so you don’t know how other people might react. That's been me since I was 16 years old. So the first thing my family members who called [after the show] said was: “We’re not surprised.”

In the show, you talked about how the interpretation of an independent woman is someone who cannot get married and cannot adjust — that she is cunning or chalu. Is this true? Or is this changing in India?

I’d say that we’re getting there. We’re not yet there. I faced these issues because I have a very independent thought process and the way I view companionship. I'm not going to use the word “marriage” because I don't know whether I want to end up being married or whether I want to end up with a companion. Of course I love the idea of waking up next to the person I’m in love with. [My family is] beginning to accept me for who I am now. My mami [aunt] actually just said the other day, “No matter what, I can't take away what you've gotten yourself to be. I can't. This is your time, go out and shine.”

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